Ever been an outsider for so long you loose the belief that you can ever become an “insider”? Been that person no one wants to be for so long, you don’t believe you can ever be that some people are jealous of.
I’ve always been that girl, or at least in my mind. I never got good grades, no good in sports and never got boys. I don’t really know when this changed, it just did. I’m not super popular or anything, I’m just comfortable in my own skin and it’s noticeable. I don’t know if it’s because of the fact that I don’t care if people want to be me, or if it’s the fact that I don’t have time to think about it – either one is alright. I think that’s the clue to being happy – not caring – cause if you care, you over think and start being depressed over it.
Us girls – especially – compare ourselves to other girls, scientist say this is the reason so many teenage girls has low self-esteem and confidence. I can’t say that I don’t do that, but I can say that I try not to. It has really worn me down to think badly of myself all the time; it’s always better to see the bright side of things. If a girl is thinner than you, you’ll last longer if you were stuck in an ice-cold igloo. If she always has guys around her, you may have more girl friends than her.
The grass is only greener on the other side if you want it to be. If you open your mind and see things in a positive way, everything will be more positive. This does not mean bad things can’t happen, but more good things will be appreciated.
“All this time I’ve been running in circles, you were right behind. I guess I could’ve met you in the middle, how come it never crossed my mind?” Cheryl Cole – Hummingbird (Messy Little Raindrops – 2010)