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From This Moment On

I read Shania Twains self-biography From This Moment On while on vacation. I would strongly recommend her fans, book lovers and pretty much just anyone who is interested in learning something to read the book.

I am a huge fan of Shania’s music, or Eileen, and reading her life story just made me appreciate her music even more. I see a lot of my self in Shania, but even more; I see a lot of Taylor Swift in Shania. This makes sense seeing that Shania is, probably, Taylor’s biggest inspiration.

Shania definitely has not lived an easy life. She was born into a violent and rather poor family. She had to take much of her mothers’ role in the family at an early age, and this shaped the woman that she is today. Shania truly opens up in her book and explains her pain during her childhood, how she coped when her parents died, how exhausted she was during endless tours and how she broke down when her (ex-) husband cheated on her with her best friend. Shania describes the effort she put in her “perfect appearance” and the struggles to let it go and show vulnerability.

At the end of her book Shania writes about how she views herself and how she compares herself with other, younger women. I believe practically every girl or woman out there does this, we compare ourselves to those we know are prettier than us. It’s a stupid thing to do really.

After all of Shania’s uphill battles, and after all the climbing, she found her place and her happiness. I don’t know what to say, Shania just opens up and let everyone in on what she’s been up to and why she is the person she is today. An above it all: the book has a happy ending!

“From this moment, life has begun. From this moment, you are the one.  Right beside you is where I belong, from this moment on.” From This Moment On – Shania Twain (Come On Over – 1997)

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Love, Don’t Lie

Right now I’ve got three words written on my hand: Love, don’t lie. It’s there to remember me not to lie. I don’t do it often, but when I occasionally lie I feel horrible afterwards. Especially if it’s something big, not the normal “Ops, sorry I forgot it” or “Really, I didn’t see that there!” because they’re not really harmful.

I’m usually good at keeping promises, but recently I broke one. I know I shouldn’t have done it, but I needed to know the truth! One good thing came out of it all: I learned the hard way that most promises are worth holding. I knew it before as well, but it was a great reminder.

Truth is that we hear lies every day without realizing. We read them in the newspaper, on the Internet and see them on the television. We hear them on the radio and from our friends. We have to learn how to be critical to what we hear. We have to learn how to be critical to our sources. Many teenagers live in the belief that everything found on the Internet is true, and this shows if you deliver an essay saying that Martin Luther King Jr. was the biggest racist ever born.

These lies are a bit different than a broken promise, but everyone starts one place right? A broken promise may not be the biggest thing in the world, but cheating on a test is kind of a broken promise isn’t it? You promise your teacher that you will not cheat, if you do so you broke a promise. In which case the consequence may be that you fail the test, a broken promise to a friend may end the friendship or just some silent nights.

I don’t know how I ended up rambling way out of subject, maybe it’s because it’s late. I don’t know, and I apologize. Just remind yourself not to lie and don’t break promises!

“I’m screaming, he’s talking over. I’ve asked him twice, says he don’t know her.” Cheryl Cole ft. August – Better To Lie (Messy Little Raindrops – 2010)

Almost Bulletproof

Who decides what cheating is? Some define it as a kiss; others say it’s when you sleep with another person. But doesn’t it feel like cheating when someone is together with you and they have feeling for someone else?

I have one rule when it comes to relationships: if I like someone else I tell the guy I’m in a relationship with and break up (unless he refuses for some reason of course). I don’t have the heart to lie to a boy saying that I have feelings for him, when in fact my heart belongs to someone else. I could never kiss someone, and far from sleep with someone. And when the guy you’re “dating” knows this about you, wouldn’t the same rules apply to him as well? Maybe not, but it would be nice to know. Wouldn’t it?

Apparently I’ve been lied to for quite some time. Correction: almost trough the whole relationship. I did realize something was off, but I didn’t have proof. Now, some months after it ended I hear about it. I don’t really care: I’m over him. But I am a bit angry because I could never do that to him, and he knew that. I feel as if guys just use my trust to have “fun”. It hurts. Not because I love him, but because I put my trust in the wrong guy and believed his lies.

It’s all in the past and doesn’t really matter, but guys should know by now: a woman/girl always knows. We may not be bulletproof, but we know when something is off. Still we stick with him and tell ourselves that it will end and he will come to realize that we love him. He knows we will never leave and uses it to it’s full potential, until one day we leave. Yes, we’re brave when we want to be.

But boys: don’t, ‘cause she will know!

“Maybe next time he’ll think before he cheats!” Carrie Underwood – Before He Cheats (Some Hearts – 2005)